Friday, July 13, 2007
as i walked the psychology section of the national library, there was a whole row of books for about 'Love' and 'Sex'. this one caught my eye. ---- just another book i recommend: Love as a Mental Illness, by Frank Tallis
there are seven types of love, says Sternberg. they are primarily made up of
- 1. Passion.
2. Commitment, and
3. Intimacy
when you have all 3 characteristics, that we can call 'THE BIGGEST LOVE' which it falls smack centre of the triangle. find out where your love stands in this triangle.
Q: can you change the love you have for someone?
A: yes you can. but like all loves, they require work.
Q: is it possible to love two people at any one time?
A: yes.
Q: why?
A:
val says, "we can love several times over in our lifetime, but there are some people who don't fall in love at all. love doesn't come easily. nor should we take it lightly."
another chapter in the book:
you've heard stories from friends how sometimes they meet someone in the club, or at night, and then when they see them in the daylight, they look - how to say - uglier than they recall. no your friends are not going blind... here's the question:
Q: why do people look better in clubs?
A:
you've been warned. either way, don't pick up strangers in the club, no matter how gorgeous they may look.
she feels that he may be too controlling. and she may not want you to hang around with 'the boys' too much. he could be jealous. she could be jealous.
Q: is it wrong to be jealous (when you supposedly love someone)?
A:
Q: is it possible to be afraid of love?
A: yes. but that's not the question you should be asking.
Q: what then should i be asking?
A: why are we afraid of loving?
Q: so... why are we afraid of loving?
A:
“Romantic love is mental illness. But it's a pleasurable one. It's a drug. It distorts reality, and that's the point of it. It would be impossible to fall in love with someone that you really saw.”
- Fran Lebowitz (American Writer and Humorist, b.1950)
