i was exploring helium.com. their motto is something like "knowledge is for everyone, writing is a passion and everyone's passion is writing." i indeedly-did-do sum it up (oh yes, i made that word up too.)

it is on helium.com i came across a comment by a Ms. Brittany Murietta.

the question falls under the category of relationships > dating> love & lust:
Q: "Why are people afraid to Love?"

Brittany's A: There is a difference between the love one has for life and falling in love with another human being. They are not to be confused because they are different kinds of love acquired upon different levels. There are a few of you who have decided to respond to this question to let out your emotions on a time that a man or women was emotionally unavailable to you...well I mean I hope it's a man or women, if you fell in love with a rat, a cow or a firetruck I would recommend you start your search for a psychologist.
I truly wish that I could tell you that love is possible between any two people, but come on, we know that's not true.

I'm one of them, I'm the one that says "I just don't love you yet". You may not get the chance of hearing "I love you" come out of my mouth. I've talked to many of my "type" (If we're getting categorized now.) Let me lay it out very plain and simple. We who are afraid to love are not afraid to love, we're simply afraid to love you. We see something that will arise to a problem later. Deep down we don't think you're the one. We're afraid to love because we know the one we've been looking for is still out there somewhere, staring at a painting, lighting up a smoke, we can always imagine this person. We want to continue our search, we want to find that person the we feel deserves all of our love.

I don't want make it sound as if those who are emotionally unavailable are better or worse people. No one person is better than the other because of such a trait, truly. What I do notice, however, is that we keep on making excuses for one another to stay together, instead of talking them out, resolving, or deciding to leave instead of being miserable. Now what kind of way is that to go through life? I'll just give you one piece of advice, go out there and find that person, they're waiting for you. If it's been quite a long time you've been loving someone that doesn't love you back, go. Go and find someone who will, you know they want to as well. Everyone is CAPABLE of falling in love, all that needs to be acquired is patience, hope, peace, free your spirit to do the searching. Things are so much more glorious than they are at a glance.

i agree with ms. brittany. i'm probably more like her than anything else. but for the sake of having an answer to the above question: "WHY ARE PEOPLE AFRAID TO LOVE?", here's my answer:

people fear what they don't know. love, for most people, is the grey area.

there is a thrill from not knowing --- for example, not knowing when the rollercoaster is going to take you for a dip and a heart-stopping drop. it's the moment when gravity has no hold on us. that 2 seconds of nothingness, to me, is what i think love should feel like. (have i ever been in love? i hear you ask. we'll leave that to another day okay? (:)

we don't know when the 2 seconds will kick in while we're on the rollercoaster, but we know it's coming when we're riding up at that outrageous angle, the chains knocking away beneath our feet, and that manmade contraption hurtling you towards the tip where we can almost touch the sky.

the next thing you know, it's the 2 seconds of nothingness. then the heart-stopping drop.

point is you know the drop is coming.

with rollercoasters you hear the drop coming as the chains rattle, and you know the route that you're taking (AND you know it's safe).
in love, you don't. love has no chain-rattling-"beware the drop" signs flashing in neon pink, nor does it have a fixed route made by man, and you never know when the drop is gonna happen.

people are afraid to love because they don't know when and what the drop's gonna be like, and how long it's gonna take to reach experience those 2 seconds. do we have the time? i sure hope so, because 2 seconds though plenty short, it's too long for us not to have.

valerie anne
in my 20s and wonderful.
dressed to dress you.

QUOTE VAL

. i would do you, but i can't. it's just the wrong season right now.

KEEPING COUNT

I've been in canada for days.

THE BOOK IN MY BAG

. in need of a recommendation



. tattoo
. rolex
. prada bag
. hermes birkin/kelly
. hermes scarf
. prada penguin coin purse
. suped up VW jetta mk3 '97
. 911 Turbo
. WRX
. smoked e-codes/fogs
. porsche deep dish rims
. my driver's license
. a shaven head for my 18th


. be a somebody
. make {gravi.tee}
. snowboard
. own my first car
. travel: NYC, all over europe, japan, mexico, chile, argentina, spain, greece, laos, vietnam, bali, dubai, amsterdam
. publish a book entitled "you better quote val, or else" - recommended by derek goh
. fashion school
. travel: roadtrip canada
. travel: roadtrip USA
. move out
. own a house
. ride the dragon in tokyo
. go fish/camping for a weekend
. open a cafe/boutique
. horse-riding
. speak korean/japanese/spanish/french
. skydive over mauritius waters
. white-water raft above level 3
. bungee jump from a suspension bridge
. break the world record for the longest time on a loop-the-loop roller coaster ride
. save an endangered species
. AND prove to my mum that i'll be married before 35.


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